How does it feel to be stuck in darkness?
Why do we all prefer the Light?
Hexagram 36 of the I-Ching gives us many insights into these questions.
To some degree, we have all experienced, are all experiencing, or will all experience times when :
- Everything we try to do is complicated and just fails
- We feel transparent, unloved, unheard (our sense of identity is being challenged)
- We feel isolated, lonely
Dark clouds are over us and we can’t seem to get a grip on our environment.
The I-Ching tells us that:
It is a necessary process and we need to learn to accept it. It is as if we are in a cave, and no none can hear us, see us, rescue us.
The I-Ching says “bear with it!“… Wow, this feels so uncaring and thoughtless…
In other (nicer) words the I-Ching means : the way to go about this situation is to understand that sometimes circumstances are not favorable, sometimes we do need to keep our mouths shut and our ideas hidden, because the moment is not right, receptivity is not there, people around are not in “listening” mode.
It doesn’t mean that what we are not worth their attention, that we are not worth receiving love, money, understanding, success. Even though sometimes it doesn’t feel like it, we have to remember that our “inner light” is ever present, we need to nurture it, attend to it, even more when it is dark outside.
The good news is, it is only a temporary darkening of the light, just like an eclipse…
Just like in photography, darkness allows the light to appear.
If we are patient enough to “bear with it”, cultivate humility, focus on our inner balance (cultivate peace within ourselves without seeking for approval or understanding), work on the details of a particular project of ours (without sharing with others, trusting we are doing a good job), the time will come when the sun will shine again and we will be prepared, things will then be able to prosper.
If you are an Expat, and particularly an Expat spouse, it can feel like you are experiencing this state almost on an ongoing basis. The outside world can feel like a hostile and dark place where you don’t fit in. Your partner and children do not seem to understand what you are going through as they are taken care of and socially active and integrated.
If you feel you have been experiencing this “darkening of the light” for a little too long now…you will get some help in this webinar I am offering for free :
FREE WEBINAR THE EXPAT RESCUE REMEDY (SORRY THE LINK TO THE WEBINAR IS NOT AVAILABLE YET, BUT WILL SOON BE, THANK YOU FOR YOUR PATIENCE)